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Sarah Maria Gowlland, always known as Trot, the fourth child and third daughter of Thomas Sankey Gowlland and his wife Mary (née Ewing), was born at Tresco in the Scilly Islands on 13 April 1841.
She married Dr. Philip Whitcombe in 1858 and died in 1922.
This would mean that she died the same year as her son Robert was carried off by cancer.
Although Philip and Trot had five sons (one of whom died in infancy), it was an extremely unhappy marriage. The family story is that they did not talk to each other for some 40 years. Philip was 25 years her senior but died in 1914 aged 98; in all that long period, custom being what it was in those days, they shared the family home in Gravesend.
Dr Philip Whitcombe of Gravesend, in later life.
Jack Gowlland refers to his brother in law Philip as ‘a brute of a husband’.
Of Trot’s five sons, one, Robert, died in infancy. Her surviving four sons all were sent to Epsom College, although the second, Robert Henry, later won a scholarship to Winchester and from there to New College Oxford. He became Archdeacon and Suffragan Bishop of Colchester.
Her first and third sons, Philip Percival and William, both followed the Whitcombe family tradition and became medical practitioners. William married his first cousin Effie Gowlland. There were a number of outstanding cricketers and senior soldiers among her offspring. The fourth, Arthur, who was unmarried, became an underwriter at Lloyds.
In the 1881 census she appears in Ealing described as "Surgeon's Wife" as a visitor in the house of Stanley Hewitt, a shipping agent, and his family. In the same census her son Philip, described as "Medical Student", is also in Ealing, a visitor in the house of Eliza Whitman, a 66-year old widow.
It appears from a letter written by Trot's brother Richard that she had a dress-making business:
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