Robert Whitcombe
 

Robert Whitcombe 1862-1922

Of all my forebears Robert is the one I would have liked most to have met. He was a Wykhamist, like his son-in-law Charles Steer III.

It was while he was a science master at Eton that Robert met Annie, daughter of Samuel TG Evans. As fourth generation of the celebrated Eton family, she was part of the school establishment. When they married they lived in a house in Thames St, Windsor, opposite the castle walls. I visited it with my grandmother Betty (their eldest child) when it was a Fuller's tea room. She had lived there as a small child and could remember how the interior had been.

It was around this time that Robert realised his vocation as a priest. For further information see Elsa Steer's Threads from the Family Tapestry.

The following biography is adapted from the remarkable Gowlland family website.

Whitcombe, Sarah Maria (Trot), née Gowlland 1841 - 1922

Sarah Maria Gowlland, always known as Trot, the fourth child and third daughter of Thomas Sankey Gowlland and his wife Mary (née Ewing), was born at Tresco in the Scilly Islands on 13 April 1841.

She married Dr. Philip Whitcombe in 1858 and died in 1922.
This would mean that she died the same year as her son Robert was carried off by cancer.

Although Philip and Trot had five sons (one of whom died in infancy), it was an extremely unhappy marriage. The family story is that they did not talk to each other for some 40 years. Philip was 25 years her senior but died in 1914 aged 98; in all that long period, custom being what it was in those days, they shared the family home in Gravesend.

Dr Philip Whitcombe of Gravesend, in later life.

Jack Gowlland refers to his brother in law Philip as ‘a brute of a husband’.

Of Trot’s five sons, one, Robert, died in infancy. Her surviving four sons all were sent to Epsom College, although the second, Robert Henry, later won a scholarship to Winchester and from there to New College Oxford. He became Archdeacon and Suffragan Bishop of Colchester.

Her first and third sons, Philip Percival and William, both followed the Whitcombe family tradition and became medical practitioners. William married his first cousin Effie Gowlland. There were a number of outstanding cricketers and senior soldiers among her offspring. The fourth, Arthur, who was unmarried, became an underwriter at Lloyds.

In the 1881 census she appears in Ealing described as "Surgeon's Wife" as a visitor in the house of Stanley Hewitt, a shipping agent, and his family. In the same census her son Philip, described as "Medical Student", is also in Ealing, a visitor in the house of Eliza Whitman, a 66-year old widow.

It appears from a letter written by Trot's brother Richard that she had a dress-making business:

Dear old Trot spent four days with us last week. We spent Easter at Gravesend and brought her back with us. She was very well and in her usual good spirits. Most of the time she was with us she was engaged upon a little dress wh. [? I enclose for your baby]. She is most indefatigable in her work and always has some brand new scheme in hand for making money. She appears to have quite a large business correspondence. I have never met such a clever contriving woman in my life. She has now quite a staff of assistants to work for her e.g. the Reed girls at Bexley.

Possibly this business got into difficulties, because in later life a cause of family scandal arose. Some time around 1880 Trot was taken to court for debt, with the threat of jail. She had no money of her own, or had lost whatever she'd made. Her husband Philip refused to honour her debts. It was left to their son Robert Henry to rescue her by meeting the court judgment from the scholarship money he had received from Winchester School to pay for his studies at Oxford – which can have been no easy matter.

Evidently things recovered, because from 1889 until Philip’s death in 1914 (when she moved away from Gravesend to live in Holland Park in London) she was Honorary Secretary and Treasurer of the Gravesend Hospital Samaritan Society.

The Gravesend Reporter wrote following her retirement in February 1915:

Mrs. Whitcombe’s long and energetic work for the Society is well known and she will be sorely missed by countless numbers of the sick poor, not only in the borough but around the whole countryside. Through the Society Mrs. Whitcombe was able to provide clothing for destitute patients who from long illness had been reduced to poverty and whose circumstances justified such assistance and nourishment and other pressing requirements were also supplied in cases of need; whilst hundred of patients have benefited by being sent away to the sea for convalescence. It was perhaps in this particular branch of the work that Mrs. Whitcombe was best known to the poor, for every year between 70 and 80 debilitated patients were sent to various convalescent homes. So large hearted was Mrs. Whitcombe that it did not matter where the patients hailed from: in fact quite half the patients came from Northfleet and Perry Street and the surrounding villages on both sides of the river.

Mrs. Whitcombe was particularly interested in the maternity side of the work and many mothers have been thankful to her for boxes of clothes lent and for kindly help at a time of great need. A glance at the 20th Annual Report of the Samaritan Society shows that considerably over £150 was expended during 1914 on the alleviation of distress and in helping the sick during that year, compared to £8 expended in 1889, the first year that Mrs. Whitcombe took over the work.’

Langton Gowlland remembers being taken with his brother by their grandmother Jessie to take tea with his Great Aunt Trot in Holland Park.

‘She was very dignified, well turned out and pretty – the tea would be served with great ceremony and with a lovely lace cloth and she gave us a shilling – or it might have been half a crown.’

Although she was 81 when she died, she suffered from periods of ill health. A description of an operation she underwent shows how dreadful such experiences were in those days:

I write again now to tell you about Trot. You know she has for a long time been in a bad state of health. Recently she has suffered a good deal from that swelling outside the throat which you remember. She was last week persuaded to see a private throat surgeon on the subject. He at once said it was most serious and that she might be suffocated at any moment, that at most she could not survive a couple of years if the swelling was not at once removed by an operation.

She determined at once to undergo the operation. She took lodging in Harley Street close to the Dr’s house on Tuesday last and there at 5 o’clock that evening the operation was performed. There were two Doctors and two nurses. It appears to have been very severe pain – Trot fainted twice once so long and so seriously that the Drs were frightened. That night of course she was in a sinking state and so she was all the next day and night. Her weakness seems to have been much greater than the Drs anticipated. The operation consisted in emptying the lump and setting up inflammation in it. This has to be done again and would have been done already had she not been so weak. They are afraid to risk another bad fainting fit.

She is now therefore being fed up to meet the rest of the operation. I see her every morning and evening. This morning, Friday, she seemed decidedly better and had much less pain in the wounded part. She is, however, very nervous and depressed about herself and very much dreads the pain which she must endure when the next stage in the operation is reached. The Dr said she would have to be under him 3 weeks but this delay may defer this cure till a later date. All I can tell you about her is that she is making very good progress – but we shall be all very anxious till she is really convalescent which is at present far from being the case.’


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